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Addiction can be a very lonely place, shadowed by shame, guilt, fear anger, sadness and not a whole lot of joy! The stigma that exists around addiction does nothing to support individuals, families, organisations and communities faced with the mental, emotional, social, physical and spiritual challenges that this presents. And all too often those with substance abuse, addictive behaviour and mental health disorders are seen as somehow less than everyone else. I can personally vouch for the fact that none of these issues are moral ones. Addiction can stem from four primary causes, which are:
- Chemical imbalance in the brain
- Unresolved issues of guilt, shame and trauma
- Inability to change current situation
- False belief system
So initial use often results from an individual’s inability to cope in a healthy, productive manner. And what starts as a way to deal with life’s pressure may become a habitual pattern, beginning with use and progressing to misuse, abuse and dependency. And then the theories, ideas and models abound around whether or not addiction is a disease. What starts out being fun, free and fanciful – something to take the edge off life – often ends in isolation and loneliness, where obsession and the single-minded value of using or doing is what governs one’s life.
But from where I work as a Recovery Coach, it’s not about what caused the addiction as much as how one wants to move forward. It’s a quagmire, and while acknowledging the victim it is my primary focus to support my clients as they create #RecoveryCapital to develop their survivor. Recovery Coaching is not a “fix all”, but rather an adjunct service that can be used to help a client plan their recovery and wellness journey, and then develop actions to move themselves towards their envisaged future.
It takes a strong, courageous person to acknowledge their addiction and take the first step in their personal journey. Addiction treatment and recovery is something to be celebrated and honoured, something for the individual and their loved ones to be proud off. Millions of people across the world’s regions and cultures, ethnic, language and socio-economic groups are afflicted by what really is an equal-opportunities disorder. The challenge facing all these people is to unite in supporting, loving and reconnecting with themselves, their families and communities. That we treat one another as whole, complete and capable, rather than broken and weak. Because isolating people is not going to help them get well!!
The addict’s larger circle is as always affected by the substance abuse and addictive behaviours. And it is equally important that their close family and friends don’t forget about themselves to save their addict. Rebuilding trust, learning to practice patience, tolerance, forgiveness and integrity are all effective ways to heal relationships. Learning to communicate effectively with others and laying down strong, healthy personal boundaries are all solutions-driven approaches to starting to live a constructive, fulfilling life. Learning to express the mature emotions of anger, sadness, fear and joy in a way that serves and empowers, are highly useful tools that can be learned in treatment and recovery programs.
Education, personal development and spiritual growth are all facets that can be expanded and developed as one progresses through recovery. It’s about developing new though patterns, developing new behaviours and being mindfully aware of our thoughts. There are various options around treatment and recovery, from inpatient treatment to outpatient programs. One of the most important elements lies in the personal relationships that develop between the patient, the addiction professionals and the family unit. So explore all the options that are out their from counselling, to therapy and recovery coaching, along with exploring what you can do to #feedyoursoul in recovery.
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As a person in long-term recovery as well as a coach that works with individuals and groups around substance abuse and addictive behaviour disorders, I sometimes find the amount of ideas, thought, theories and models around addiction and recovery somewhat confusing!? And the thing that I find the most overwhelming is that there seems to be way to much vying to be right and not nearly enough time taking the individual’s needs, wants and ideas into account when addressing their personal addiction journey. Add a giant spoonful of guilt and shame on the part of the substance/behaviour abuser into the mix and it gets really messy and complex. And don’t forget how much the average person on the street likes a neat little diagnosis so that they can put everything into some sort of perspective, and it gets even more complicated in my opinion.
The truth is that there are many reasons for addiction such as unresolved issues of guilt, shame and trauma, inability to change current situation, a false belief system and chemical imbalance. So that’s what gets people into addiction where we develop habitual thought and behaviour patterns around using and doing, which we can justify and explain away for a while, but then inevitably things get bewildering and we decide to make some changes. Whether this involves attending a 12-step meeting, entering a treatment program, making an appointment with the family doctor or visiting a recovery coach, we begin to realise that our lives are a little less stellar than we imagined they would be! And those are all great steps to take in order to move from a culture of addiction into a culture of recovery. By getting honest, open and willing we can begin our recovery journey. But that’s just the beginning and too many people believe that 28 days in a treatment program, a couple of months in a fellowship or a prescription from their doctor is going to change everything. The truth is that getting clean is one thing, staying clean is another.
The biggest challenge is making lasting changes to our thoughts and behaviour. Learning new, healthy coping techniques, which don’t involve self medication, setting SMART goals and developing action plans to move forward in life. Because often it’s safe and easy to stay where we are, doing the same things that we have always done, talking about what we don’t want to do or be. It’s a lot harder to start to determine what we do want, where we want to go and how we are going to get there. Just ask yourself this simple little question, “What kind of man/woman do I want to be?” Think of what values and principles you want to develop, how you want your personal and professional life to look and where you are going in your life? It’s probably not as easy as you initially thought it might be!? And what do you need to get you to this life that you have envisioned!?
That’s where #recoverycapital comes into the picture. These are the personal resources that you (not me) have at your disposal in order to support you moving forward in your recovery. What do you need socially, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually to support you in your recovery and wellness? Rather than thinking of what you don’t have, think of what you do have and what you could potentially have, to move forward in your life. Imagine what you want to move towards and what you can capitalise on to help you get there. Too often I hear the words “I really don’t want…”, but I believe that by simply reframing this into the positive statement of “What I really want is…” we are instantly in a different mental space, shifting our thoughts from the past into the present and future. Isn’t it more exciting to think of the infinite possibilities that we can create in the present, rather than the guilt- and shame-laden thoughts of the past. Instead of looking over our shoulders at what we are trying to leave behind, think about creating a new, exciting existence to move towards.
Everyone’s #recoverycapital is unique and personal!! Where my physical #recoverycapital might include long walks on the beach and a healthy eating plan, yours might be mountain biking or martial arts, with plenty of sleep and really great sex. Spiritual #recoverycapital is equally as diverse including faith-based activities for some to 12-step meetings, meditation and modern-day spiritualism for others. Studying and education can be a form of mental #recoverycapital, as can reading, travelling or taking up a new hobby. Socially, spending time with family and friends, joining a sports team or a book club, and doing volunteer work can be a resource to support your personal recovery. We can also build emotional resources through personal development, being part of a support group, spending time pursuing healthy lifestyle choices or signing up for courses and workshops in areas of personal interest. The idea of all this is that there is not just one thing that supports us, and so we need to explore and develop resources in all these areas of our lives. Too often we become over focused in one area, but neglect the others.
In the work that I do, one of my primary areas of focus is to assist individuals in creating and developing their #recoverycapital inline with the personal resources that they have at their disposal. It’s an exciting process that encourages one to explore different possibilities and ideas on how to empower one’s self and be proactive in developing what you need to achieve those dreams you have, achieve those goals you have set and become the person you want to become!
Til Next Time,
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He died, after years of depression, drug abuse and multiple suicide attempts…he died. The last attempt was successful. How my heart bled for a chance to see him again. To hear his voice and to see him smile, but all that gripped my heart was the memory of the deep sadness in his eyes. My beloved uncle, who was like a brother to me, was gone. I remember the sleepless nights and the nightmares, the stories told about how it wasn’t the first time he had tried to kill himself. I had tried to make sense of what had happened, tried to put the pieces of his puzzled life together, just so I could understand why he could no longer live in this world.
There were others after him. And their stories of hopelessness and a life of pain, ending in death, haunt me to this day. Their cries for help reverberate in my soul. I need to help them… but how? I had become a lost soul myself; bad decision after bad decision had led me down a path of self-destruction. Even in those moments of hopeless despair, I could hear the cries for help. They were everywhere.
First, I needed to deal with my own pain; I was empty. Empty from living a life filled with meaningless endeavours. Suicide of the soul. Abused self. Diagnosed with depression on so many occasions, I needed to move beyond the dysfunctional patterns I had created in my life. Healing was necessary for the once confident young girl who believed that she had the potential to make a difference in the lives of others.
I made the first step and found my healing at the feet of my Maker. Who better than Him to fix what was broken and restore me to what he had created me to be? The process of healing is never easy though, it takes a series of hard decisions and difficult life choices to undo a lifetime of dysfunction. The second step was to find a place where I could learn and equip myself with the skills and knowledge to effectively do the work I so long to do. God then placed on my path people who inspired and guided me on my quest. Some do not even realise how their lives of selflessness has helped me realise my dream, day by day. It’s funny how when we align ourselves to God and accept that we need Him that things start coming together in a way that is beyond our own understanding.
I say this because, a month ago today I would have never imagined myself in Recovery Coach in Training. I was happily going about my life doing the best I could to pursue my purpose, when I received a friend request from an angel. This angel had come to revolutionise myself and she did not even know it . A few interactions later, I was accepting to do the course that was to take place the very next weekend, at the cost of? Merely volunteering my time to helping others; I could have jumped right out of my skin!
So there I was the first night of Recovery Coach Training at SHARP Recovery Solutions, anxious but excited that I was granted the opportunity to be a part of an amazing community of individuals and organisations whose sole purpose was one of healing, restoration and wellness. God was smiling down at me. My life would never be the same again.
The facilitator was amazing, along with his sidekick angel. Anyone who comes into contact with them will agree with me when I say that their passion for what they do is inspiring. The sacrifices they make to serve makes this cold, dark world a better place to live in every day. Needless to say, that first night left me reeling. I was a heap of mixed emotions after interacting with an array of characters and concepts, not to mention a few curveballs to throw me into a tailspin of what I can only express as ‘whoaaa!!’.
I went back the next morning with only a few hours of sleep and a burning desire to push through. Did I mention that I am 8 months pregnant? Oh yes, by the way. LOL!! The timing is amazing, but Lord knows I would much rather pursue than back down and allow another life into this world without a concerted effort on my part to bring things full circle…I’ll definitely be blogging about this at a later stage! So there I was continuing my training, and boy was I in for a ride. Nothing short of informative, the informal interactive style of teaching kept us all on our toes. With every laugh, cry and awkward pause there was a massive download of knowledge and life experience that no amount of lecturing could ever buy. I was in my element! And could not wait to come back for more. No amount of exhaustion was going to keep me away, not this girl!
My kokorozashi was awakened! My life’s purpose was becoming more than just a feeling, it was becoming something tangible. How could I not pursue this avenue of learning and use it to improve the lives of others? After all these years of searching and wandering I have stepped into what could turn out to be the greatest resource in fulfilling my purpose. By week two, which has just passed, I experienced a greater sense of direction, a higher level of understanding. It was as if God spoke through my facilitators and classmates, their experiences and courageous sharing had added fuel to the simmering fire inside of me. I saw and felt an overwhelming love, not the selfish kind that we have become accustomed to but a love that has no boundaries and knows no end. It breaks down walls and nourishes the soul, leaving only vivid traces of the pain that once lived behind those walls. These people, this place, this community, was the epitome of selflessness. I love them so much!
My most earnest prayer is that God will grant me the grace to continue in the pursuit of my purpose. May my newfound friends never lose their passion and may every endeavour be a fruitful one. That every person who crosses our paths will experience only love and a sense of hope for their futures.
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I don’t know if what I’m about to put out into the public domain is a good idea considering the work that I do as a Recovery Coach, but I’ve discovered that the more I embrace my recovery principles such as honesty, integrity and authenticity, the more I grow as a woman and a coach. Very recently I began working at The Foundation Clinic on a more full-time basis, which means I am able to commit myself whole-heartedly to working within the area of substance abuse and addiction recovery. Around the time that I was winding things up with my previous employer, making decisions and setting some goals for myself I decided that I was going to tackle my personal health and wellness issue of being overweight.
It’s something that I have battled for years, yo-yo dieting my way through my twenties and thirties and never managing to maintain a healthy weight for too long. The last time I was happy with my body I was literally starving myself due to stress and anxiety, and even though I was in recovery from alcohol abuse at the time, looking back I realise that I was still trapped in an addictive behaviour pattern. So my obsession became my weight, rather than alcohol. Periods of bingeing followed by periods of abstinence, mental and emotional obsession, guilt and shame around my habits and feeling completely out of control… I’m talking about my relationship with food, although it is identical to my previous relationship to alcohol.
So while getting clear on my professional goals, I decided to spend some time looking at my personal goals around health and wellness. I’d spent the year going to the gym on a regular basis, and that hadn’t made much difference to my figure, I’d also tried various approaches to weight loss only to get despondent and throw it all in…supplements, eating plans, advice from friends, all seemed to be useless. So I elected to get professional, medical assistance with my weight loss. I wasn’t looking for another healthy lifestyle plan, I was looking for a weight-loss solution! The interesting thing was even though I coach in substance abuse recovery, especially around changing thought and behaviour patterns, I am a little embarrassed to admit, that I hadn’t seen the similarities in my behaviour and habits around food!!
It was eye-opening! I have triggers that cause me to eat! I obsess about food and am secretive about my eating habits. I eat in a binge-like fashion when I am hungry, angry, lonely or tired (HALT) and then feel guilt and shame around my lack of control. And it was in that instant that I took responsibility for me patterns and started to think of myself with a behaviour/substance use disorder around food. Perhaps I’d been arrogant to think that I had changed my thought patterns and behaviour to such an extent as to set me apart from my clients that are doing exactly the same around their own substances. It humbled me enormously and made me more empathetic and compassionate as to their personal journeys. The difference this time though was I was immediately able to draw on a variety of coaching tools, development techniques and goal setting practices to get me moving forward immediately.
Rather than languishing around in a victim mentality, with the child-like emotions of guilt and shame, I started to employ my recovery principles and personal values to start goal setting around my weight-loss. I got very clear on my reasons for my actions and made myself accountable to myself and a couple of other people around these. It was empowering to take responsibility for unhealthy behaviour and thought patterns around food, and begin to move forward towards my solutions. I have been honest and open about my problem with food, and it feels cathartic and enlightening to move through the fear and the sadness around my previous failed attempts at weight management. I’ve realised that all I need to do is apply the same techniques in this area of my life as I do with my substance abuse recovery. I haven’t experienced the previous trauma associated with dieting, I am motivated and determined to reach the goals I have set up for myself.
I feel empowered and healthy, and it’s a really great place to be. With the weight shedding, through not only an eating plan, but a completely different attitude and outlook to what I have chosen to do, I am becoming the woman I have always believed I could be…and it’s not only about my body, but also my spirit and my mind. I did realise that I need to be careful of falling into addictive, obsessive behaviour and thought patterns, even though I haven’t touched any alcohol for more than seven and a half years, because it’s not the substance that’s the problem, it’s the behaviour!
Til next time,
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Sometimes there is a question during a coaching session that really resonates with me. Powerful questions that leave you with a strange sense of discomfort, mulling over them for ages…looking into the deep recesses of your conscious and unconscious mind to find the answer! My colleague, David Collins, asked just such a question last week and the affect on me was profound. Even though the answer came to me almost immediately, it made me realise the depth of my growth and development recently and how much my work means to me. Having spent years drifting along, feeling a little rudderless in the stormy sea of life, I was instantly aware of where I am right now, both personally and professionally.
As someone in long-term recovery I have spent many years on my personal growth and the development of recovery capital. I have made a huge effort to teach myself tools and techniques for living a forward-focused and solutions-driven life, being part of my personal solution rather than part of my problem. Because merely stopping the bad behaviour or removing the addictive substance may be part of recovery, it definitely only constitutes a small part thereof (in my humble opinion). Recovery needs to be about rediscovering events, people, pursuits and interests that bring us purpose and fulfillment. About moving forward with our lives and becoming the people we want to be!
It took me a long time to find the perfect combination for me, to honestly evaluate my personal resources, and develop a personal plan on how to proceed towards the life that I wanted to live. It wasn’t about just stopping my desrtuctive substance abuse, but rather about retraining my brain to respond in “trigger” situations, rather than simply react and fall back into my what I knew how to do in challenging situations – namely drink, fight, avoid…nothing particularly positive or constructive. And it took time and effort! Learning healthy coping skills in my mid-thirties was no easy feat, but when I heard that powerful question, my response was immediate. In a flash I was appreciative and grateful for how my work has paid off. How making the effort to identify where my skills (personal, professional or other) might be lacking and then go out and explore options that are the start to decisive steps being taken to reach my goals, has helped me become the person I am today. The person that I always felt I was supposed to be, a person who lives in their integrity.
So when the question “What would your twenty-year old self say to you if they met you in the street today?” was asked, my immediate response was “What took you so freaking long?” The truth is it did take me a long time to become the person I envisioned being when I was starting out in my twenties. A person who lived a life of purpose, being of service to others, living with passion, courage and self-love. And even though I am proud and grateful of who I am today, it wasn’t until that very moment that I became clear on the distance I have traveled, the growth I have achieved and how until I got really, really clear on who I wanted to be and where I wanted to go, I was just dawdling along letting life happen to me, rather than being in charge of my own destiny.
So ask yourself the question “What would my twenty-year old self say to me if he/she met me in the street today?” And then practising the principles of honesty, willingness, openness and courage (to mention but a few), decide if you are going in the direction you want to be going, living the life that you want to be living as the person you aspire to be, or whether it is time for directed, planned change.
Til next time,
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Life has been extremely hectic and I realised that I haven’t posted for an exceptionally long time, so I have made time this morning to sit down and catch up a little and do a little self reflection at the same time. And the idea that has kept coming to me over the last few days is the idea that “If you’re not growing, you’re dying”. It keeps coming back to me in my personal and professional life, and has made me think deeply about my own growth as well as the growth of my Recovery Coaching clients. You may believe the statement to be true or may refute it wholeheartedly, but it’s definitely worth thinking about. Because would you rather be living a life of stagnation and mediocrity, or do you want a life of purpose and fulfillment. I can honestly say that the more I do to push myself and grow, the more satisfaction I get from my life. And as a coach in the field of recovery (from addiction and substance abuse) I see incredible development in the individuals who dig deep to discover what they want and how they plan to achieve it.
So ask yourself the questions, “Who am I?” and “Where do I want my life to be in [three] months?” The truth is that a lot of us don’t really know who we are or what we want. We get so caught up in just getting by and staying on top of things that we forget to dream and aspire! Sadly we also tend to lose touch with who we are and the things that feed our souls. This is especially true for people in early recovery! Through the compulsive cycle of using or doing, people have forgotten what makes their heart sing, what values drive them and what principles guide them. It’s ever so easy to sit around and pay lip service to principles like honesty, integrity and tolerance that are identified as an essential part of the recovery journey, but it’s completely different (and often pretty challenging) to actually incorporate them into our lives and use them to aspire us towards our goals.
Understanding and determining our values is also difficult, but essential. Especially since during active addiction our one true value is often our substance of choice. It’s what gets us out of bed in the morning and determines the course of our day! And that may sound uncomfortable and even irritate you, but the truth is that in active addiction we are driven by our behaviour patterns and habits. The challenge in recovery is to develop new ways of doing things, and retraining our brain to respond differently to life events that would of sent us into the arms of our addictive substance or behaviour. So the way I see it recovery is about growth! It’s about deciding where you want yourself and your life to be in the future and then developing action steps to achieve this.
Recovery capital is essential in the journey. Whether this be in the physical, emotional, mental, social or spiritual sphere it’s important to determine where you have resources to support you in your recovery and where you may need to build your capital. And everyone’s recovery capital is different! Where one person might choose to attend NA/AA meetings as part of the spiritual/emotional capital, another will identify that team sport serves and supports them in the same way. And this is illustrative of the idea that every individual needs to determine their own recovery plan, that is as unique as they are. Because my dreams and aspirations are ever so different to the next person, so to will be my recovery. So in Recovery Coaching we share tools to support individuals’ recovery, but it is up to every person to determine what they need and want moving forward in their lives. As a recovery coach my role is to challenge my clients to understand where they are, and support them in their journey to where they want to be, whether this is personally or professionally. And during this process to take personal responsibility and accountability for their actions.
So recovery is about growth for me! It’s about solutions-driven, forward-focused movement that is driven by principle and guided by spiritual principles. It’s about creating a life that is determined by purpose and feeding one’s soul with activities that bring joy and fulfillment. Every step that we take towards the life we dream of is growth…and is exciting and stimulating. I use these practices in my own life and the more I do, the richer and more incredible my life becomes. I continue to learn and develop personally and professionally as I strive to incorporate principles into my life, live by my values, excavate my dreams and build plans to achieve what my heart desires. And at the centre of all this is continuing to build my recovery capital so that I have the resources and support to move towards my aspirations. Because I honestly believe that “if you are not growing you are dying.”
Til next time
One of the recurring themes in the recovery coaching work that I do is that people think that once they have undergone possible treatment and are now working their recovery, that life is going to be easy. That everything is miraculously going to get better, that relationships are going to mend and that life is suddenly going to be everything we dreamed of… The truth is that things are going to get a lot better, but this doesn’t happen overnight and there is no Recovery Fairy that waves a magic wand and fixes everything that was broken. Recovery takes hard work and dedication to the recovery plan you have decided on for yourself. Once you have identified the emotional, physical, mental, social and spiritual recovery capital that you need to support you in your journey, and been equally honest about your recovery liabilities – those things that are likely to be detrimental to our recovery.
I can vouch for the fact that recovery is a wonderful journey, but like any adventure there are obstacles and challenges along the way. As we grow and develop in all areas of our lives, the people closest to us may be confused and unsure of the changes that are taking place. They may feel vulnerable and “left out” because they don’t understand what’s happening to the person who has for so long been unwell. Their role in the relationship changes and they may not want or enjoy the new place in our lives that they now occupy. You may not need them as much…asking them to help you out, fix your mistakes and pick up the pieces as you did in the past. So even though you are well and growing as an individual, they may feel confused about where they fit into your recovery. So rebuilding your relationships requires applying the spiritual principles such as tolerance, patience and acceptance. You may need to practice accountability, forgiveness and love as the people in your life find their place in your recovery space. It’s not always easy as there may be issues of co-dependency in your relationships, where others are reliant on your substance abuse disorder to define their role in the relationship.
So as you change, grow and develop without them, there is a gap between you. And this is just one of the challenges of recovery. Because besides the fact that your friends and family might not understand the changes that you are undergoing, you are also faced with having “lost your best friend” and feeling an unbearable emptiness. A void that you need to learn how to fill with new, healthy past times and activities. Exploring what feeds your soul can be exhausting, but the end result is that your life can be filled with meaning and fulfillment. That you start to live with purpose, pursuing your goals with determination and authenticity. But these goals don’t determine themselves and purpose doesn’t drop into your lap just because you have decided to work your recovery. Soul searching with honesty and willingness can be oh so draining, but as you start to (re)learn and (re)discover what drives and motivates you, you will begin to live with a vigor and passion that has been lying dormant through your active addiction.
Whatever your recovery choices are, by moving forward and focusing on the future, rather than wallowing in the past, you will begin to find a new rhythm to your life. Initially recovery may seem like a lot of work, devoid of any fun and enjoyment, so be sure to reward yourself for the work that you are doing! My clients often find recovery overwhelming, all work and no play, so to speak. I believe that it is crucial to take some time out and “pat yourself on the back” for a job well done. I encourage them to spend some time thinking about healthy activities and events that will bring them a sense of excitement and pleasure, that are inline with their recovery goals. Perhaps that means a day at the amusement park, a weekend away, a new outfit or pair of shoes, that book or movie they’ve been dying to get to or a relaxing afternoon at the spa. The choice is yours, depending on the type of activity that brings you enjoyment. What brings happiness to one person is totally different to that of the person sitting next to them in a Recovery Wellness Program, at an AA or NA meeting or in a treatment program. The challenge is to find those things that bring a smile to your lips and a glow to your core.
Just remember that everyone’s Road to Recovery is unique. The successes need to be celebrated and the tests along the way can be triumphantly overcome with learned tools, techniques and recovery capital. So don’t despair if you are finding your recovery a little chaotic or a touch arduous, there are people to support and guide you through these trying periods. If you are interested in more information about Recovery Coaching and learning about how to develop recovery capital and spiritual principles and tools and techniques for living a fulfilled and purposeful life in recovery, visit http://www.thefoundationclinic.co.za or contact Leigh-Anne (082)442-5710.
Til next time,
I was asked to do a guest post for Addictionology earlier this year on why people find early recovery so difficult!? It really didn’t take me too long to think of a multitude of reasons, myself having white-knuckled my early recovery some years ago. In my opinion, being clean and sober is not the same as being in recovery. Simply abstaining without changing one’s behaviour patterns, developing effective coping mechanisms and growing mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually means we are not growing as a person in recovery. Because I think that this is an incredibly important issue, I have decided to re-post the article here in an attempt to highlight how finding purpose and fulfillment is essential to long-term recovery and wellness.
Moving from the culture of addiction to the culture of recovery is a challenging journey that requires physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual recovery capital to ensure that we have the resources to support us in our recovery. In order to fill the void that is left by abstaining from harmful substances and behaviour, it is important that we start to develop tools and techniques that aid our recovery. By giving us the objectivity of “mind sight” to be able to observe our feelings, thoughts and behaviour in a potentially harmful situation, we are better equipped to develop new thought patterns, so that we are able to overcome early-stage cravings and urges.
By understanding the importance of spiritual principles and determining what our personal values are, we can start to feed our souls. Instead of pursuing destructive behaviour patterns that are prevalent in substance abuse, we should try and develop healthy pursuits, explore new interests and identify which elements of our lives need to cultivated. People in early recovery often experience difficulties because they are not prepared for the feelings of loneliness and emptiness they experience because of they have lost their “best friend”. According to psychiatrist, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, people in recovery go through the stages of grief, like those experienced when losing a close friend or family member. People will most likely experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance during the process and may be unaware that we are actually grieving. Again, by understanding and acknowledging our situation, we are able to more effectively deal with obstacles we may confront in the early stages of our recovery journey.
Personal learning and self-development will ensure that we are more empowered, moving towards a life of purpose and fulfilment in the later stages of recovery. Goal setting and action planning are skills that can be consciously developed to aid forward movement in recovery. By joining a Recovery Wellness Program clients are encouraged to design their own recovery plan and identify and capitalise on their personal strengths, while be aware of areas of weakness and possible obstacles that might jeopardise their early recovery. By engaging in adult education in an environment of positive psychology, solutions-driven coaching and peer support, one is given a safe environment to explore recovery in an honest, empowering program.
Til Next Time
The Foundation Recovery Wellness Program is a 21-day program that aids recovery, by developing the survivor in each client, exposing clients to information about recovery (rather than focusing on addiction), and giving each client the opportunity to grow and move forward in a supportive, caring space. For more information on The Foundation Recovery Wellness Program, please visit www.thefoundationclinic.com or contact Leigh-Anne (082)442-5710 discuss your options.